"A Revolution in Education"
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Introduction to the
Social Revolution of Dialogue
The Creation of a More Sincere, Real, and Genuine Society

The New Social Revolution of Dialogue discards the old, implied social contract and embraces a New Social Contract. The old social contract was composed of three parts:

1. Ninety-five percent of the conversations were superficial and five percent deep.
2. There was a “Lock-in.” That is, once the superficial conversation started, it was very difficult to shift into depth.
3. There were only some socially appropriate topics that could be discussed.

The New Social Contract is as follows:
1. At least 50:50 ratio of deep to superficial conversation.
2. The “Lock-In” is abolished. There is a ready flow between levels of superficiality and depth.
3. Any subject is open for discussion as long as it is approached respectfully, with kindness and wisdom.

  Respectfully Real

There is no attempt to convert people to depth. The motto of the revolution is “Respectfully Real.” People who subscribe to the New Social Contract are being invited to wear a special logo, “Respectfully Real.” It can be worn as a pin, shirt, bracelet, etc. People who want depth will recognize each other because of the logo or by intuition and will congregate; their conversations will be more deep, real, authentic, meaningful, and open. Being deep is not defined by topic, since any topic can be approached deeply or superficially. Speaking deeply includes, but is not limited to, speaking of what really matters to you, your true thoughts. The conversation does not have to involve personal, private information, but it could. Depth can be at intellectual, spiritual, and/or emotional levels. It is from the heart. It can be between people who have met for the first time, or have known each other for a long time. It can be between parent and child, blood relations, or between people not related by blood. It can be serious or humorous. People who prefer casual, surface conversation will simply continue as they are. It should be noted that an example of how to cause a switch from a superficial conversation to a deeper one among those who subscribe to the New Social Contract is simply to ask for it: “I feel a need for us to speak more deeply.” This would now be socially appropriate, if done respectfully. It would also be socially appropriate to respectfully say, “We have spoken deeply for quite awhile now, would it be alright to lighten it up for awhile.”

One amazing finding in our research has been that “People of Depth” feel that depth defines them more powerfully than does any other classification such as religion, gender, race, or nationality. We also found that most people want more deep conversations than they are currently having. We are also finding that most people are more attracted to members of the opposite sex who are deep as opposed to superficial.

It should be emphasized that this is a social revolution, not a political one, nor a violent one. It is a major step in overcoming world loneliness, a step in recognizing the oneness of humankind. For the first time the revolution is an internal one; not based on external principles. It is based on the premise that we have the right to be our true selves as long as the expression of the true self is done respectfully, with kindness and wisdom. This is essential for the survival of humanity, for humans as humans. Otherwise, it is simply the survival of homo sapiens. It should also be noted that this revolution of dialogue is a public health movement. Speaking with depth is healthier. It is also a movement regarding precious natural resources, words and time. When words are wasted, so is time. Trillions of words are spoken daily throughout the world. Now, we will reduce how much we squander this precious natural resource. The conservation movement has now been extended into the realm of words. For we are mortals with only limited time to live upon the earth. Bringing the New Social Contract to society is the goal of my life’s work.

-Arnold P. Nerenberg, Ph.D.

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Implementing Depth in Our Social Interactions

-An Analysis of "The Nerenberg Institute Survey of Depth"
  The Nerenberg Institute Survey of Depth is a survey pertaining to the type of conversations people prefer: do they prefer deep or superficial conversation? This topic has vast importance in today's social order. A wide range of people participated in this survey; the majority of participants ranged from mid-twenties to late thirties. Of the 1,801 participants, 1,388 (77%) prefer deep conversation as opposed to superficial. The real surprise is that the preponderance of participants is not engaging in deep conversation as frequently as they would like. An incredible 71% of people said that ideally they would like to have more than 50 % of their daily interactions and conversations to contain depth. Unfortunately, people said that less than 30% of their daily encounters and discussions are in actuality "deep". That leaves an enormous gap. Having deep conversation is so important that 75% of the participants feel that "people of depth" are more their kind of people than those of their own religion, race, gender, or nationality.
The need of people for connection obtained through depth today is pervasive. It can be seen in numerous elements of our society. For instance, business ventures. Of the 1,087 people asked about their business preferences, a substantial 84% said they prefer to conduct business with individuals of a deep nature. This same effect is prevalent in the romantic arena of life. Of the 1,548 people questioned about their preferences regarding members of the opposite sex, 87% said they have greater desire and attraction for people of depth.

Deep conversations and interactions create connections. Two people can have a conversation with two entirely different opinions on any given subject, but as long as they feel they have conveyed their opinions and the other person understood their reasoning (even though that person might still disagree) one is left with the feeling of connection. If a person shares a real thought or opinion with another person and that person listens and takes it into consideration and reciprocates, a person feels as though they have shared a part of themselves with another. This sharing and connection will reduce feelings of isolation and loneliness. When connection is obtained through deep conversation, it follows that loneliness is reduced. That is why a massive 70% of people who took the survey said they believe that deep conversations reduce feelings of isolation and loneliness. It is an important component in overcoming world loneliness.

People need people. It is ironic that the majority of subjects said that they prefer deep conversation and would like to have more than 50% of their daily conversations to be "deep"; however, less than 30% of their conversations contain depth. Another surprising factor is that not only are people having less than a desirable amount of deep conversations, but 64% of people said they actually become bored or agitated after 5 to 10 minutes of shallow conversation. One has to ask, how is this possible? How can we have a world of people that want and need more connection and depth, but have so little? There is a plethora of explanation to these questions. For example: fear, oppression, upbringing, common belief of socially accepted behavior, lack of opportunity, etc. It was found that 70% of participants believe it would be helpful if people open to "deep" conversation wore a symbol or logo of some sort to let others know it is ok to engage in this type of multifaceted conversation. This leads me to Dr. Nerenberg's profound thoughts on the "Social Revolution of Dialog."

Dr. Nerenberg states: "The New Social Revolution of Dialog is a discarding of the old, implied social contract and embracing a New Social Contract. The old has three parts:

1. Ninety-five percent of the conversations were superficial and five percent deep.

2. There was a "Lock-In." That is, once conversation started, it was very difficult to shift to depth.

3. There were only some socially appropriate topics that could be discussed.

In spite of all of the possible explanations, one thing is for sure: depth is a necessary and desirable element of life and the lack of it is epidemic. This lack of depth and connection is a national and world wide crisis. Throughout history, humankind has experienced a great deal of tragedy, pain and loss in both a universal and personal level; most of this was the direct result of close-mindedness, lack of connection and ability to truly communicate. The simplicity of a "Respectfully Real" communication could have averted past misfortune and disaster on a world and personal level, and it can be the prevention of future ruin and peril. Many social injustices could have been prevented if there was more of an awareness that we are all similar and not that different from each other. We found that 77% of the participants indicate that speaking more deeply from the heart would quicken that understanding; it is an important catalyst for recognizing the oneness of humankind.

Analysis and reporting of data by, Ms. Elaine Smith

Our Destiny

The source of pain in the world is separation from each other. We cannot sustain ourselves individually. This is the fundamental truth of human existence. To survive as human beings we must recognize our desperate need of each other and find ways to fulfill that need through our most powerful approach, our communication, especially by the use of words. To fulfill this basic craving, words must be used in such a way as to deepen the connection between ourselves.  Such expression, to be a true reflection of the reality within our hearts, must be filled with respect and kindness in such a manner as to uplift both listener and speaker, and make them glad to have known each other.  This gladness fulfills the craving for connection to others and lifts our loneliness and feelings of isolation. If is the sacred responsibility of all who agree with this analysis, this Social Revolution of Dialogue, to encourage the speaking and the listening to others in a Respectfully Real manner.  There must be amongst us a dedication to The New Social Contract. We must arise to overcome our lethargy and distraction and bring to fruition The New Society, a more genuine, sincere, and real communication.

This sacred trust is now awakening to consciousness. It is the destiny of humankind to manifest its oneness, which can only be fulfilled by the The New Social Contract.  The knowledge of how to use words to create connection, bridges between ourselves, has been told to us over the ages by the Great Holy Ones. Our hearts must first be quickened in love, humility, and kindness so that our words are true reflections of our inner reality, a golden tongue to express a golden heart.  We are called to arise now.  This is the time. We must awaken from the slumber and galvanize ourselves to this most profound direction so that our lives and the lives of our loved ones may be filled with purpose during our brief sojourn upon this earth.

The New Proclamation of Independence
The Natural Right to Be

We declare our natural right to be our true selves as long as the expression of this true self does not violate the rights of others.  We commit ourselves to address each other with respect, with kindness and wisdom.  We declare ourselves emancipated from the old social contract which compelled us to constrain ourselves into the prison of the false self; we announce ourselves free of such tyranny. We now follow the path of being “Respectfully Real”.  We will use the power of words to create connection and bridges between ourselves as opposed to walls and barriers.  The tyranny of the old social contract into which we were born and by which we were oppressed consisted of three parts:

1) We felt compelled most of the time to speak superficially with one another.  Thus, we remained unknown to each other and became strangers to ourselves.  This is the result of the pressure to have 95% of our old conversations to be shallow and only 5% deep.  We declare our natural right to have the ratio be 50-50.  No society on earth at this time has 50% of conversations as deep.

2) We have felt trapped.  Even though we felt bored and agitated after five to ten minutes of superficial conversation, we could not escape.  Out of politeness, social custom, and social resistance, we could not change the level.  We could not go deeper.  In our New Social Contract this “Lock-In” is abolished.  We can readily switch levels between superficiality and depth.  We declare ourselves free of these chains. 

3) We have felt extremely limited by only certain topics being socially appropriate.  Now all topics are socially appropriate as long as we approach each other in a respectfully real manner, with kindness and wisdom.  We claim this right of freedom.

We align ourselves with this New Social Contract as an integral part of our pursuit of happiness, which is our inalienable right.  We refuse to impose this new contract on anyone; those who wish to function under the old social contract have every right to do so. “Respectfully Real” is the path of our true independence and the motto of the social revolution of dialogue.

We will wear this logo so that we members of the New Contract ­­­­may more readily find one another in order to form a more perfect unity. We pledge ourselves to this new way of being so that we as individuals and we as a society will progress more expansively as is our natural right and destiny.

Arnold P. Nerenberg Ph. D.
Founder of the
SocialRevolution of Dialogue

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